Something To Be Thankful For

Thanks Nike for so eloquently concluding the fiasco that has been Imus, Rutgers and the whole "nappy headed ho" thing:

Thank you, ignorance.

Thank you for starting the conversation.

Thank you for making an entire nation listen to the Rutgers team's story. And for making us wonder what other great stories we've missed.

Thank you for reminding us to think before we speak.

Thank you for showing us how strong and poised 18- and 20-year-old women can be.

Thank you for reminding a sports nation that another basketball tournament goes on in March.

Thank you for showing us that sport includes more than the time spent on the court.

Thank you for unintentionally moving women's sport forward.

And thank you for making all of us realize that we still have a long way to go.

Next season starts 11.16.07


And in the words of Forest Gump, "And that's all I have to say about that."

What Happened to Dating?

I once posted an ad on Craig's List asking this very question. And I know I have blogged in the past on dating ideas. Apparently what has happened to dating is that people have gotten lazy and have lost creativity...they don't think outside of the box.

So here are some date ideas and some are actually free or cheap:

- Free movie screening or matinee (leaves the rest of the day to do something else)

- Every place has after work drink specials

- Most jobs give employees discounts to things around the city like museums

- Dinner, drinks and games at Dave & Busters and not expensive if you do the Power Combo...it comes with a $10 game card

- You can get half priced tickets to Broadway shows or go to an off Broadway show or even go to a community theater

- Walk across the BK bridge and talk and get to know each other while gazing at the beautiful skyline that is NYC

- Go bowling or play pool

- Take a salsa class together... A lot of places will offer the first trial class free

- Roam around a book store or a library

- Hit up a Starbucks or better yet a not-so-name brand coffee shop

- Share your MP3 collection with each other

- Roam around a part of town you have never roamed before... You never know where you could end up or what you might find, including about each other

- Summer is almost here and there will be PLENTY of street festivals

- Carnivals are another staple of summer

- Hit the beach...Jones Beach or Coney Island are not that far

- Go cart racing is always fun

- Share a hotdog as you walk around Central Park...An impromptu picnic would be an even nicer touch.

- Horse and carriage ride...every gir's dream

- Workout together. I avoid the gym because I don't know how to use the equipment but if someone offered to show me I would go.

- Make plans to cook something together. Even something as simple as baking a cake or cookies.

- Play miniature golf

- Watch the sunrise or sunset together

- Read a book aloud together. I prefer a Zane short story or even some poetry.

- Buy the ingredients to make an ice cream sundae, and create it together. Or if that is too much work, find the nearest Mr. Softee truck.

- Go to a comedy club. Everyone likes to laugh.

- Visit a museum

- Ascend to the top of the Rock or the Empire State building

- Go sightseeing...It's not just exclusive to tourists

- Take me out to the ballgame...Buy me an italian sausage, a soda and a carvel sundae in a Yankee cup

- Rent canoes and paddle around the nearest lake. I always wanted to rent a paddle boat on the Potamic

- Go to the zoo

- Visit the botanical gardens

- Play a board game

- Teach me how to play chess

- Drive some place close that you have never visited before

- Visit a bed and breakfast for a nice overnight getaway

- Go to a strip club together (not recommended for a first date)

I know I'm not the only one with ideas. Come on people....dating ideas? Now, if I can just find some dates to do all the things I have thought of.

Liar, Liar...Pants on Fire

I can deal with a lot of things. Lying is not one of them.

I had an ex that would lie to me about little, stupid, insignificant shit. And when I would catch him in these little "white lies" he never had a good reason for lying. And that would just piss me off to no end. Cause if you will lie to me about the little things you will lie to me about the big things.

I had another ex that was bold with the lying. This dude would look me in the eye and lie to my face. To me, that is the equivalent of someone spitting in my face. It's one thing (and still not the right thing) to lie to me on IM, email, text message, phone...whatever...but to look me directly in my face and lie to me is beyond disrespectful.

Too many people talk about keeping it real and always being honest. But that's some BS...cause if put in a situation where lying is an easy out most people would just choose to lie.

I don't know how many times I have to blog this, text this, chat this, discuss this if I tell you to be honest with me, not to lie to me, DON'T DO IT! I'm tired of people lying to me to supposedly protect my feelings. More BS. You ain't protecting my feelings you are looking out for your own ass. Let me worry about my feelings. Cause when I find out the truth and anyone who knows me knows I ALWAYS find out the truth it's going to piss me off even more. If you had told me from jump, I could have just thanked you for your honesty and walked away.

I had another dude that I was casually seeing. He later admitted there was more to the situation than he had initially told me. I was mad, don't get me wrong, but because he was honest with me I wished him the best and kept it moving. No drama, no arguing, no tears. He admitted to me something he should have made clear from jump but that was neither here nor there because at least he was now giving me necessary information so I could decide how to proceed.

I cannot make the right decision if I'm not being told the truth. If a person gets in to a situation that requires them to lie to me about it then they shouldn't have been in that situation in the first place. But don't lie to avoid the consequences. If you were bold enough to do what you did irregardless of possible negative outcomes, then face what's coming. Or at least give me the chance to walk away without feeling like you completely disrespected me.

I think this quote sums it up for me, "It is better to be told a hurtful truth than to be told a comforting lie."